Learning to set good, appropriate, strong, clear context for conversations and shared experiences is one of the most powerful and foundational components of authentic relating.
You can think of context like the rules of a game. Setting good, clear context ensures that all participants of a given context are playing by the same rules of the game, and that each player knows the rules clearly and comprehensively. Loose or vague context leads to confusion, assumptions, and potential for chaos, just as sloppy or erratic rules of game can lead to confused or chaotic play.
An Authentic Relating Testimony: ART Co-founder Ryel Kestano
I’d been dreading this conversation for days. I stood on the front porch for a moment, feeling the knot in my stomach and racing pulse in my temples. My mind was gripped with pinballing thoughts, voices yelling at me to do this or say that – “Just stay calm,” said one. “Don’t let her push you around!” said another. I took a deep breath and knocked on the door and went inside, and felt my body actively preparing for battle.
The World of ART – Summer 2019
Happy Summer everyone! We’ve been all around the world and back again this summer, from sold-out courses in Vancouver, LA and Boulder, to corporate presentations in Palm Springs, Silicon Valley and Tulum, to an incredible Level 3 course here in the Colorado mountains… ART-style authentic relating is spreading like wildfire!
The World of ART – Spring 2019
As winter finally gives way to spring (it’s been a long cold one here in Colorado), we’re feeling excited and on purpose as we wrap up an incredible first quarter of the year. We delivered as many courses to as many people in the first three months of 2019 as we did in all of last year!
Shattering a 20+ Year Pattern of Disempowerment: An Authentic Relating Testimony
Trauma: an embodied flashback. How many years of my life have I been ready to fight at a moments notice, or to collapse, disengage, and disconnect? I’ve always had a hard time speaking my truth and owning my viewpoints around men who don’t yield space for me to speak. Fight or flight.
Bringing it Home: An Authentic Relating Testimony
I looked into my father’s eyes, with nothing to do, nothing to say, just the spaciousness to be there. As we continued to mill (eye gaze), tears began to well up in his eyes, a sight I had witnessed only a handful of times in my life. My heart began to melt and tense up, simultaneously. I felt alive, with my family, like I had not felt since I was very young.